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Talk about These 10 Things before Walking Down the Aisle

Here are the top-ten conversations you should have with your partner before walking down the aisle.

Dating By Ariba KhaliqMar 27, 2014

Have You Planned Your Wedding but Not Your Marriage?

When there is a wedding, so much thought goes into planning every minor detail while the couple happily neglects the major thing that has to be contrived- their marriage. Far beyond planning the particulars of a wedding day, they need to begin working, preparing and planning for the marriage they hope to build. Here are the top-ten conversations you should have with your partner before walking down the aisle. Image Courtesy: Getty Images



Personal Life Goals

You should both know about your individual goals and plans for life. You must be sure that your future goals are supported by your partner so that tiffs don’t culminate. You need to be sure that your partner will extend their support when you will want to pursue your individual interests and dreams. Image Courtesy: Getty Images



Money and Careers

A frank discussion about who will be in charge of paying bills or making big financial decisions is crucial. You both will have to work as a team when it comes to matters of money. You should both talk it out and be upfront about your finances. Image Courtesy: Getty Images




Do you want to have kids? How many? What are your expectations around parenting? Are you open to adoption if it's necessary? How many years you want to wait before having children? These are the questions you should include in your marriage-planning-conversations. This is also a good time to discuss whether or not you want to raise your kids in a certain religion (in case you both follow different religions). Image Courtesy: Getty Images




It might seem odd to talk about it now, but it's important to be prepared for the sexual difficulties that can come with long-term relationships. Discuss how to handle potential sexual issues and how to keep things exciting and passionate. Image Courtesy: Getty Images



Ageing Parents

Talk to your partner about how they hope to care for their ageing parents. This is a good way to get familiar with each other's priorities. Ask your future spouse if they will want their parents to live in your own home? Would they prefer to put them up in a care facility? Will they be responsible for those costs? You may want to include siblings also in these conversations. Image Courtesy: Getty Images




Arguments are inevitable; make sure you understand each other's way of managing conflict. Whatever your argument style is, hash out what counts as acceptable fight behaviour and what's off-limits. If your partner doesn’t want to talk it out right away, pull back a little. Image Courtesy: Getty Images




It is very important to be aware of each other's debt. Whether it's school loans or overtaxed credit cards; your partner's debt becomes partly your responsibility when you get married, and you don't want any surprises. Image Courtesy: Getty Images




Many people are surprised by their partner's religious beliefs after they are hitched. Fights happen when the other person turns out to be more religious than they thought. Discussions about prayer life, reading God’s word, spiritual roles, theological beliefs, and denominational preferences are all things that need to be considered and discussed as you move forward. Image Courtesy: Getty Images



Moving to a New Place

You may find yourself in a situation where you have to move to a new city or state or country. Talk to your sweetie if they are comfortable about moving someday- even if it just means moving to a neighbourhood.  Image Courtesy: Getty Images



Past and Boundaries

Boundaries are your views on what is okay and what is not okay when it comes to your relationship and marriage. These boundaries may culminate as a result of your past experiences. Past relationships, family history, and significant experiences (both positive and negative) that have shaped you, are just some of the things that need to be discussed as you look back- so that you can set boundaries and join together in moving forward. Image Courtesy: Getty Images

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