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Steps in Forgiving Someone Who Has Hurt You

Forgiving someone is not easy. It is even harder when he/she is someone you love. When someone has hurt you, it's best to forgive and forget what happened.

Mental Health By Himanshu SharmaAug 01, 2014

Everybody has the Heart to Forgive

Forgiving someone is not easy. It is even harder when he/she is someone you love. When someone has hurt you, it's best to forgive and forget what happened. Holding onto that feeling will only add to the woes. (Image source:Gettyimages)

Address the Problem Head On

You may be going through a lot but you need to acknowledge that realising the truth is the beginning of process of healing. Letting it go is liberating, though it may be painful. (Image source:Gettyimages)

Listen to Them

Talk it out to them to understand their reasoning and why they did what they did. Put yourself in their shoes. If they tell you they are sorry for what they have done, it is now time to get over it. (Image source:Gettyimages)

Explain your Feelings

Once you know their reasoning, it is your turn to be heard. Speak concisely about the issue at hand. Avoid blaming them as it will defeat the purpose of moving forward. (Image source:Gettyimages)

Realize that Everyone Makes Mistakes

If you think of what they did to you as a mistake, you are likely to come to terms with it and forget. Think about what mistakes you may have made in the past. Was your mistake unforgivable? (Image source:Gettyimages)

Reflect on How Much Better you could Feel

Holding on to the feeling of despair affects your mental, emotional or physical health. Consider how forgiving and forgetting will help you feel better. It doesn’t matter whether you get an apology or not. (Image source:Gettyimages)

Meditate on Freeing Yourself

Meditate on freeing yourself from negative feelings and letting go of the situation. Just think why forgiveness is important for you and your life. (Image source:Gettyimages)

You are not Excusing their Behaviour

You are forgiving them for your own good. Forgiving never means that you are excusing that person's behaviour. Don’t think it to be a win-loss thing. (Image source:Gettyimages)

Learn a Lesson

Once you have forgiven, you’ll move forward with caution. You will accept that the other person did hurt you, but that you wouldn’t allow such a time to repeat itself. You will then know how to keep away that emotional stress. (Image source:Gettyimages)

Times Heals Everything

Give it time. With time, you will form a clearer state of mind. Just try to forgive someone who hurt you even if you are done with that person. (Image source:Gettyimages)

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