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5 Steps for First Time Sex: Sex Education

There is always a first time to everything and this notion applies to having sex as well. Being on bed for the first time to spice up things with your girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife can be challenging. It is, therefore, important that you read

Snr By Bhadra KamalasananJan 14, 2013

Set the Scene

Before you hop on the bed with your partner, take inspiration from love scenes on your silver screen. Psychology has it that certain colours and scent stimulate the sex hormones. Set your bedroom with scented candles, dim lights, soft music, champagne and perhaps a sumptuous dinner. The best part of setting the scene before the room heats up is that it works in all scenarios.

Wear Something Special

Flaunt your sensuous lingerie or a sexy dress to make a seductive entrance to the bedroom. It can really help to set the mood and tickle the imagination of your partner. Make sure you feel good and comfortable wearing it, as a confident lover is always a better lover.

Do Not Disturb

Now that you are all set for one of the most important moments of your life, a knock at the door is the last thing you would want. Ensure complete privacy by setting everything on the do-not-disturb mode. Either put your cell phones on silent mode or even better switch off the phones. Make sure nothing interrupts the mood and pace of your first night with your partner.

Prepare for the Act

Now that you have successfully come past the first two important steps to first time sex, there is no reason why you shouldn’t consider the third one. An intrinsic part of the potent mix is protection. Even though you may be pulled to not care for the instant that you are steaming up for climax, you sure do not want to be sorry at your discovery of a positive pregnancy test result later. Be contraceptive throughout!


Once you have set the scene, do not start flinging off your clothes and jumping into bed with your partner. Start kissing, touching and petting to stimulate the sex hormones and thereby making your partner wanting for more. Sex is about making it pleasurable for your partner more than for yourself and therefore, foreplay is indispensable.

Expect less

Sex generally improves as you get to know someone and become more comfortable with each other’s bodies. So don’t feel pressured to make it the best night, because this is just the first of many. Setting high expectations may stop you from getting the best out of your first time. Relax and enjoy every moment to the fullest as things will only get better.


The key to a happy first time sex is not sleeping on your own respective sides on the bed, but snuggling in together. The moment is not over yet and therefore, snuggle in to catch a few more moments of kissing and touching before you bid each other goodnight. In fact, you can make the first time sex last longer by moving away from the bed and using the couch.


Once you think you are exhausted enough to kiss each other goodnight, you could grab sleep in a spooning position. The spooning position involves the woman and the man to fitting together like a spoon. By way of spooning, the man lays front to back with the girl. Spooning is considered one of the most popular forms of affection between couples.

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