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10 Ways to Be Friends with Your Ex

Many people disagree to the idea of former lovers becoming friends. However, any friendship depends on your individual preferences. If you're ready to give it a shot with your ex, here is what you need to do.

Dating By Himanshu SharmaMar 17, 2015

Staying Friends with your Ex

Many people disagree to the idea of former lovers becoming friends. However, friendship with an ex is natural to some. The fate of friendship depends on your individual personalities and shared history, and also if you can do a few things the way they should be done in friendship. If you're ready to give it a shot with your ex, here is what you need to do.


Express your Intentions

Honesty is the foundation of every relationship, and it is no different for friendship. Don’t make your ex confused about your intentions, so make it clear. Tell them directly that you want to be friends. Otherwise, they might think you're trying to get back together.


Be Cautious when Spending Time

Be cautious when you see them. See them during nuclear social outings or keep the meeting short. You can pretend that your schedule is full and you have to be somewhere. Use the excuse ‘I’m running late for..’ to get going.


Know When to Back Off

If he/she keeps calling or texting you regularly without a reason, bringing up things from the past relationship or brushing up against you, they are still into you. If you figure out at any time that they are still into you, take a step back.


Don’t Let Meetings Construct as Date

If you stay out late, drink alcohol or go dancing with them, you are not doing what it takes to get out of a romantic relationship and truly be friends with each other. Being just as close as you were when you were dating even after you two have broken apart can lead you to fall for them again and set yourself up for future heartbreak. And, say no to hand-holding and flirting!


Tell Common Friends that you’re just Friends

The friends you two have in common will be curious to know what's going on. Tell them that ‘you're just friends’ and nothing more. It is more important to let your mutual friends know this when you suspect that your ex won't be honest with others and spin them a lie.


Acknowledge that Things have changed

It is important to realise that things are not the same. If you act like nothing has happened after a breakup, acknowledge your breakup without dwelling on it.


If you are Seeing Someone, Tell your Ex

If you are dating someone, be sure to tell the ex. The feelings of jealousy may be unavoidable, but this is what will help you move on.


Explain your Friendship to a New GF/BF

When you want to be friends with your ex and have gotten into a new romantic relationship with someone else, things can get difficult. You must clearly explain to your new GF/BF that you're not into your ex. You have to make them understand that they are just your friend and that you don’t look them in "that way" any more.


When in Trouble, Don’t Go to Them

You need to set clear emotional boundaries. When you are feeling low, don't go to your ex. Emotional entanglement will lead you to do things that you used to do in the past. Talk whatever it is that comes to your mind but don’t look to get your emotional needs fulfilled.


Give it Time

It will take time for you to build a friendship with the one you once loved. If you’re serious about it, you need to approach carefully and without any slip-ups.


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