Mar 25, 2013
Many couples seek counselling after a decade or more has elapsed of their relationship. Often the complaint is that the relationship has gone into a rut, there is nothing in common anymore and that it is better off for them to be single and seek other partners. Most of the times the problem is not so much the perceived incompatibility but actually the monotony that comes from having the same likes and dislikes.
The interests that you had in common with your partner were responsible for drawing you to him/her but after some years pass, the monotony of doing the same things together for so long gets to you. The mistake such couples make in the excitement of having found a near perfect partner who shares all interests with them is completely ignoring individual interests. So, do not get caught up in your relationship with much zeal that it actually burns out your interest in each other after a few years.
When the point of saturation comes in your relationship, know that it is something that can be resolved between the two of you, but you do need to work at it. If you fail to realise the importance of trying to make it work, resentment is bound to creep in. Some couples get to a stage when the wife hates to think of the husband coming back after work. Can such a situation be prevented or renewed?
The advice given below can work, both for preventing fatigue to set in your relationship or renewing it from the rut of saturation.
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